Building Emotional Intimacy and Overcoming the Fear of Intimacy

Emotional intimacy can be described as the extent to which you are able to feel and experience a sense of closeness and connection to another person. This sense of closeness and connection can be healthy or it can be unhealthy. Check out my book on emotional intimacy below and see stories of couples who overcame issues related to intimacy in their relationship.

It is very easy to tell the difference between healthy emotional intimacy and unhealthy emotional intimacy. Healthy emotional intimacy results more often than not in a sense of contentment and increased desire in relating to the person you are connected to; unhealthy emotional intimacy results more often than not in a sense of pain and frustration in relating to the person you are connected to.

Unhealthy emotional intimacy stems from unhealthy interactions and practices. Here are some interactions and practices that result in unhealthy emotional intimacy.

  • Constant arguing in the relationship;
  • Failing to resolve issues fairly and amicably;
  • Rampant selfishness;
  • Constantly displaying a lack of empathy;
  • Behaving in a less than trustworthy manner;
  • Displaying a lack of appreciation for each other in the relationship.

To read more about Emotional Intimacy and Emotional Intelligence, check out this fuller article that shows how to build emotional intimacy in your relationship.