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We normally associate the term “making love” with sexual intercourse, but like so many things about intimate relationships, we get this wrong. Making love is much more than just about sexual intercourse. Yes, sex is great, one of the most exhilarating human experiences, and yes, at times even momentarily trans-formative.
What Does Making Love Really Mean?
Making love means cultivating the environment where love can do nothing but strive. That means your bedroom should have no walls. Your bedroom is just one place where another iteration of love- making can take place. But that’s what sexual intercourse is – another iteration of making love. Yes, it may be the most exhilarating iteration but it cannot be exhilarating if the right environment has not been created for it.
The Importance of Making Love Anywhere
If your intimate relationship is going to take on and benefit from all the aspects that love brings to it, you have to continuously cultivate the environment where love can thrive. This notion that love will fix everything or love is enough for any situation is so wrong, so wrong. Let me tell you love is enough for what love does. And love does wonderful things but when someone is tired of having you around because you haven’t taken the time to cultivate your love with them, yes they can continue to love you, but most likely from afar.
Cultivating the environment for love cannot just mean only when you are in the bedroom. That is going to be way too late then. That cultivation has to take place everywhere you go together, every experience you have together. And that experience could be something as going to a movie but more importantly it could be just the experience from having a loving conversation.
When was the last time you had a loving conversation with your spouse? Yeah, I know maybe way too long and maybe you just haven’t thought about it. Listen you have to think about these things actively, not just as a passing thought. So let’s look at some of the ways you can make love anywhere.
Some Ways To Make Love Anywhere
Do fun, crazy things together. Fun, crazy things create memories and emotional pathways that in turn can create the higher oxytocin levels in your brain. There’s a reason why oxytocin is called the ‘love harmone.’
Listen to music together, the kind that both of you love and the kind that gives you some chills.
Laugh at and with each other. Laughter reduces stress overall and create connections long remembered.
Be courteous and polite with each other. Too many times couples grow into taking each other for granted. Treat your partner as well as you would like to be treated.
Touch a lot. Hold hands. Touch when you speak, when you have a conversation, when there is no reason to touch.
Be fair with each other. Do not play games, do not try to be the one who has to be right. Sometimes you are wrong, say so, and move on.
Be kind to each other. Kindness has a way of hooking us for the long haul. People seldom forget the kindness someone extended to them.
And finally, enjoy the loving environment you have created when you get to the bedroom. Have no apology for doing so, it is an important aspect of your being.